Last month I left Max at home with my in-laws so I could fly to the USA for a few days reunion with these wonderful girlfriends.
Max was only 16 months old. His Dad was still away in Afghanistan and had been for months.
The decision to go did NOT come easily.
In my head; I questioned, I worried, I stewed for days!
Then I remembered that this is what I teach, and realised that in my heart, I KNEW I needed this time.
Graham had been away since May, I had been solo-parenting/dog-owning/house-running/business-growing for months and I was exhausted! (This was despite doing ALL I could for myself to stay topped up and healthy.)
The reality was, I was nearing burn-out.
Thankfully, I could feel that.
We ALL need breaks from time to time and I really needed this one.
So despite the questions and "shoulds" that my mind raised as I considered jet-setting away from Max for a few days, I was confident this was what I needed and would ultimately be the best choice for the both of us.
Don't get me wrong - I was also confident it was going to be challenging in many ways.
But knowing that it was right allowed me to stick to my guns, commit to the choice I'd made for myself, and go on to have the most beautiful, soul-warming, cup-filling few days with my girlfriends in America.
Max had the most wonderful time with his grandparents and I came back feeling a whole lot better - win win for all parties.
Making decisions like this may seem trivial to some, but I know that lots of you find otherwise.
You think you know what you want and need, and for a moment it makes total sense, but then you start to question yourself…
'Am I just being selfish?'
'Is this wholly unfair?'
'This is A LOT of money to spend on just me!"
'Shouldn't I just be coping better?'
and, of course, the powerful (and poisonous) 'What will other people think?'
So trust me, finding clarity and feeling confident on when your decisions are right for you isn’t something that comes easily to everyone.
I know how tricky it can be to make self-honouring choices like this because I work on it every day both with my clients and within myself.
But it is SO pivotal to whether we show up and make good choices for ourselves consistently, or if we don't.
This is why I am SO excited to be tackling this topic in my upcoming free, live, training; Mastering Consistency; 3 Simple Steps to Calm Consistency for Healthy Habits that Feel Great.. - You can find out more and sign up to join me here.
The survey so many of you completed for me earlier this month highlighted how not alone we are in this.
It's not fun or helpful to be constantly questioning every small decision you need to make.
It's not nice to doubt that what you've chosen to do is the right thing for you and for your work/family/relationship - stewing about it before, during and after.
So if you’re ready to move out of that space and into one of calm, confident and clear decision-making then join me here for the upcoming Chasing Lobsters Masterclass;
It is soooo liberating to start trusting your choices. It frees the mental space those choices were occupying and suddenly you feel you DO have more time for the other things you want to get to.
I'll be coaching on all of this for free next month, so please come and join me in Oct!
So much love,