I was wondering what to write for you all this week and then a quick chat with a client sparked those creative cells.
She was telling me how she was feeling guilty about inappropriately snapping at her little one this morning. Now, he had woken her up at 5am and his morning grizzles were not exactly providing joyful company, but her reaction was disproportionate to the challenge.
Firstly, let's spare her the judgement and own up to the fact that we have ALL been there.
What interested me though, was the timing ~ this happened first thing in the morning, moments after waking.
Now, I am not instinctively a 'morning-person', so I can relate to low-tolerance and high-irritability first thing, especially when my precious sleep has been stolen from me. It was knowing this about myself however, that sparked a practice that I feel compelled to share with you all...again.
My Morning Mantra
A loooong time ago when I first started sharing videos on Chasing Lobsters I recorded a little video about my morning mantra. You can see that here.
It was a very simple mantra;
"Today is going to be a great day."
I began saying this every morning during a challenging time (full blown identity crisis) when we'd just moved to America and I was no longer 'Dr. Georgie-the-ever-so-helpful-and-therefore-worthy-chiropractor".
It was transformative for me.
Each morning, religiously, I would repeat the sentence over and over until I started to feel my morning grumps/worry/sadness/anxiety shift, and able to start the day positively.
It really, truly, worked for me.
The habit evolved and shifted as I did, but all my positive experience with it led to me becoming an avid believer in setting the tone for my day moments after waking.
Whether this simple mantra, something similar, gratitude statements, meditation, intention-setting or journalling, each and every morning I would actively manage the thoughts and words that first came into my consciousness.
I WOULD RESET MY MORNING MINDSET.
I realise that may all sound a little woo-woo to some, but having tried and tested it, for me, it works.
So, as I was chatting with this client about the anxieties and stresses that she awoke with, and how these were then misdirected at her son, my old morning ritual came to mind.
I share this here with you all because I know this is not an isolated issue.
The reality is, just moments after we’ve woken up, many of us will have already decided that we haven't had enough sleep, got enough time, have enough energy/help/money/(insert relevant story) to do ALLLLL the things that we need to do. We start our days from a place of lack, feeling like we do not have enough and therefore are not enough to get through this day with grace, ease or joy.
Pretty deflating huh?!
So throw an extra challenge or external demand (cue grizzly 3 year old) on top of that... oh boy.
Not exactly the nicest start to our days! But I know so many of you will relate to it.
Reset your morning mindset.
Watch out for those thoughts of scarcity and lack first thing, and replace them with something that's more empowering and uplifting…
"I have everything I need to get through today."
"I am grateful for..."
"Today is going to be a great day."
Keep it simple. Keep it short. Keep it easy to remember and recite.
Fill your mind with thoughts that leave you feeling topped-up and capable rather than already depleted with nothing more to give.
Interestingly (for me), in writing this I've realised the first few moments of my days haven't been the same recently. Max's arrival and the subsequent blur of which wake-up was actually morning, has clearly broken that habit somewhat.
So, I am grateful to my client for this mutual realisation and I thank you all for inspiring me to continue to explore all this life-creating work. I look forward to reigniting my morning-mind-reset and urge you to explore something similar. It has proven, time and time again for me, to be the difference between a day that feels good - a day in which I know I have everything I need to take on what comes, or a day in which I begin feeling like I'm already failing. I hope it provides equal power to you and your days!
I’d love to know what mantra you pick or which practice you’re most drawn to. Similarly what is the dialogue that first creeps into your consciousness in the morning? Time? Energy? Sleep? Let me know in the comments so we can all see how ‘not-alone’ we are in this.
Wishing you all a very good night and hopefully a very good morning too!
So much love,
P.S. There is something VERY exciting happening in 2019 for Chasing Lobsters - think personalised coaching, super useful tools and a way for me to support you as you find the habits and routines that create a calm, joyful and vibrant life you love. ALL of which is going to become available without the pricetag of my 1-1 private coaching. Intrigued? Just pop your details in the box below and I’ll be in touch! XO