This, my lovely friends, is a grip strengthener.
Graham bought it for me for Christmas.
Lucky girl eh?!
Well, if we can all momentarily keep our minds out of the gutter and assume his intent was totally selfless, I’ll explain why I’m talking to you about a grip strengthener.
Generally, I pride myself on being a strong, independent woman. I will move furniture, build cabinets and change tyres without second thought (even when 8 months pregnant and I probably shouldn’t be). Move house flying solo? - Sure, why not. I know I can do it.
In fact, at times, I am so fiercely self-reliant I forget it’s ok to need and ask for help. Perhaps it’s the military lifestyle that has developed such strength (stubbornness?) in me.
HOWEVER, I have the grip strength of a pig’s trotter.
Nothing floors my independent spirit like a jar of pickles.
Or a jar of kimchi.
Or the cap of a sports bottle.
Or the cap of anything really.
Opening anything - I’m pants at it.
And being the vocal over-sharer I am, Graham, for a loooong time has heard about how frustrating, deflating, annoying and at times worrying it is. (The worry comes from the inner chiropractor who knows far too much about neurological conditions causing peripheral weakness… or perhaps it’s just my old friend hypochondria resurfacing).
Either way, the boy got tired of my moaning.
So he bought me a grip strengthener.
Yep. Yep he did.
And I LOVED it.
Seriously - I was delighted.
I spend so much of my time preaching about stepping out of victimhood by taking action. I speak about how you are the master of your reality. You create your best health, your best life, your best body, your best experience.
Yet FOR YEARS I have resigned myself to sheepishly asking Graham to open jars, and cursed him for “screwing the cap back on too tight” when he’s away and I can’t fill the humidifier for Max.
I have done nothing, nada, zilch to recognise the potential for change, take control, own my responsibility and take action to amend the situation. Perhaps I’d previously questioned if the outcome would justify the required input. The true answer to that depends on how much the current state bothers me though. Which is a lot.
So I am super thankful to Graham for my grip-strengthener.
It now sits on my desk so I can train my strength consciously (20 reps each hand before and after each working day), and unconsciously (mindlessly playing).
Who knows if this will be the solution to my porky pincers, but it certainly feels empowering to know I am IN ACTION toward change.
This is because when we start taking action, we start recognising and harnessing our power within. This is the beauty of action.
ACTION IS AN ANTIDOTE TO ANXIETY.
ACTION IS AN ANTIDOTE TO POWERLESSNESS.
ACTION IS AN ANTIDOTE TO VICTIMHOOD.
And it feels good!
One simple act to get you into motion and out of feeling stuck can be powerful in instigating change - change in both your current emotional experience and hopefully long-lasting changes too.
So observe if there’s something you’re constantly moaning about but feel powerless to change. Ask if that is really true. Then get into action - reach out, research, share about it, connect with an expert who may be able to offer guidance. You have more potential for change than you realise but you’re the only one who can grasp it
(Pun totally intended.)
So much love,
P.S. Helping others get into action and away from feeling stuck in their life is exactly what I do as a coach. Just as Graham demonstrated to me, working WITH someone who calls you out, holds you to the higher standards you know you deserve and are capable of, that is so powerful in moving us forward.
If you’re interested in me being that person for you, the coach, guide and motivator in your back pocket, the kind reminder when you’ve decided not to love on yourself AGAIN, well, it would be my pleasure. I have one coaching spot coming available next month and it could be yours. Interested? Just pop your email address here and I’ll be in touch!