Consistency is something I take pride in.
I do my best to show up for myself day in, day out, to gift myself what I need to create and live a life I love.
In fact, I so recognise the transformational power of consistency that my work as a coach centres around it - I help my clients (who all seem to lead very transient and inconsistent lives) find consistency in the habits that help them love themselves, their body and their life.
But that wasn't always the case. Consistency didn't always (and still sometimes doesn't) come easily to me.
I was historically, at very best, consistently inconsistent.
I would show up for myself (usually at the beginning of a new week/month/post holiday or some other time marker) for a short period, smash it and feel great.
And then I'd stop.
(At least stop until the next new, fresh, enthusiastic marker…Starting again on Monday anyone?)
It took a long time for me to learn how to create consistency.
It took me learning that consistency comes when you embrace who YOU are and all that you know to be true about yourself (even if you don't like it). You then blend that with the perfect combination of discipline, reward, vision and accountability.
It took some updating of deep-rooted beliefs I held; beliefs about myself and my abilities, beliefs about the behaviours I wanted to see more of, and of course (the biggie of all biggies when it comes to consistent self-care) beliefs around self-worth.
So after years of doing work to move beyond those barriers to consistency, I stand here pretty proud of my efforts…
And then there's writing blog posts.
Consistent blogging, you illusive little scoundrel, how you have evaded me!
I tried shortening big “blogs” to short, quick “bulletins”.
I tried altering the word “blog” to “article” as it was more enticing for me. (That may sound silly but our words carry power guys - they can work for you or against you!)
I tried to create blog schedules but this felt restrictive and uninspired.
I know I want to write for you all consistently but clearly somewhere in there was a block. A reason why, no matter how I framed, planned or scheduled the blogs, the consistency just wouldn’t flow.
And so, as with all blocks that don’t serve me, I dug in.
I put some of my coaching tools to the test to look at what was holding me back.
I knew it wasn’t laziness or a lack of desire. I knew it wasn’t for a lack of things to say. I’d battled the fears of your judgement when I first launched Chasing Lobsters so I knew it wasn't that.
SO WHAT WAS IT?
I could bore you all further with the details of this unravelling, but essentially what it all boiled down to was a story.
A story that I was repeatedly told at school and which, evidently, has stayed with me ever since.
I was always told that my writing was "too verbose”. I don’t think there was an English exam that I didn’t run out of time in as my answers were always "too long-winded" and "too wordy". Of course that message led to the belief that my style of writing was "wrong" and "not good enough". For my writing to be deemed as effective and worthy of accolade I had to abandon my way and squeeze myself into their way.
I think it was at that point that writing was no longer fun.
I either would enjoy it until I realised I had to edit it to fit within someone else's mould, or the prospect of doing that was just so intimidating I would stop before I'd even started.
I realise this may sound silly, but switch out 'writing' for 'eating well', 'exercising regularly' or 'self-kindness' and suddenly you may recognise a similar story of your own.
You don't exercise regularly because you're "just not built that way".
You don't meditate daily because "only woo-woo hipsters meditate".
You don't honour yourself with healthy food choices because "you're never going to have that body anyway"…
Our stories and our beliefs are SO IMPORTANT because they powerfully direct our behaviours.
So where, despite best intentions and desire, are you consistently inconsistent?
What limiting beliefs and 'stories' do you hold about who you are, what you can do or what you deserve within that arena?
SO FIRST OF ALL...
If you are regularly showing up to 'start all over again' then acknowledge yourself for repeatedly trying to gift yourself something you want. Forgive past attempts or "failures" and use them as guidance for what did/didn't work.
Do what you can to break down that barrier to consistency. Find your way. Give your will power the break it needs by employing personalised help and discipline in a way that works for you. Employ a friend, partner, work colleague or coach to hold you accountable. Set up systems and rewards that pave a smoother and more enticing path to consistency.
You CAN create consistency where historically you have not.
This is now my chapter to work on building consistency into my writing, and that exploration starts now. It starts with me writing MY way so that I enjoy the process and the end product feels authentic.
And if, my writing style is "too verbose" for you, then lovingly I say, go elsewhere and find the voice that shares the same information; the insights you want and need, but does so in a voice that resonates with you!
For the rest of you, thank you for reading. I promise I'll be back.
But wait, there's more. If you're feeling a little lost and overwhelmed within all this then let me help you.
Hop on for a 30 minute discovery call with me and let's see if we can identify your next simple step forward. It's free, it's friendly and ultimately it could be that first step towards loving your body and loving your life.