I met a great guy a couple of weeks ago at an event on financial independence.
That statement in itself would have had my former self snorting.
And yet there I was, talking investments with like-minded strangers, introducing myself as a life coach with no caveats, discussing the mindset behind our behaviours, whilst eagerly sharing photos of Max and tales of our former life in Turkey.
Well goodness me - my life has changed. My family, my work, my home(s), my passions have changed.
I have changed.
So much change, and yet so little acknowledgement.
Who else can raise their hand to this?- You have raised your game, shifted your life, changed as a person in many ways but somehow failed to really recognise the magnitude of that? Failed to give yourself credit for just how far you’ve come?
We ALL change and grow, far too often without realising it. Sometimes that change is for the better. Sometimes it's for the worse. Perhaps this is why I'm here today - to encourage you to reflect on how you've changed (?) - because if we're unconscious to the direction we're moving in, how are we to ensure those shifts are truly in our favour; for our highest good and the highest good of all involved?
Recognising that is important in creating a life you love, but beyond that is all the missed opportunity for praise!
When we're so focused on the mountains in the distance that we are yet to climb, we fail to see the mountain we've just triumphed over.
This comes up again and again with my clients - they have taken huge strides in how they understand, communicate and show up for themselves consistently, yet because this goal or that thing hasn't happened yet, they still see themselves as 'failing'.
Meeting this nice chap a couple of weeks ago gave me an opportunity to reflect on just how far things have shifted for me. It highlighted just how much I had updated my world. (This became even more apparent when I shared my website details and then cringed at how outdated and misaligned it was from the current truth of my work.)
As a result I decided a little review was in order.
Time to sit back, acknowledge how far I'd come, recognise the magnitude of the journey travelled, apply praise where worthy and compassion where needed. From that clearer perspective and understanding of myself I could then revisit my goals, dreams, beliefs and patterns, to make sure they were aligned with the person I AM rather than the person I was.
So I am here today to encourage you to do the same.
What growth and change are you not crediting yourself for?
What journey do you need to acknowledge, praise or apply compassion to?
Where are you holding yourself to standards and goals of your former self?
I realised that evening that it is ALWAYS the time to start owning who you are, how you’ve grown and how far you’ve come because only from there can we take the best next step forward.
But what if there isn't progress? What if you're afraid that praising yourself for how far you've come will stop you chasing the distance to where you want to go? What if, upon reflection, you don't really like who've you've become? What if this 'growth' is the reason for struggle in your relationships?
Calm down dear.
Awareness brings great opportunity for aligned action, judgement kills it.
So go forth and be compassionately curious rather than a judgemental critic. Then praise yourself for doing even that... what growth!
Questions? Reach out!
So much love,